You're kind of just making it worse, DP...


In any case, I've definitely emailed/texted my previous T every day (sometimes more than once a day) for a long time. With my new T, he says to email as much as I want - he literally doesn't want me to hold back - but, he is not obligated to read or respond. Still, he usually does, and we've exchanged multiple emails over the course of a day or two. I can also text or call whenever I need, but I do pay for any conversation resulting from that. So, OP, you are not alone and, in fact, there are plenty of us who have had even more contact. So, please know that.

My outside contact absolutely influences my T - in that he reads it, it impacts him emotionally, and he responds. We don't always speak about it at length in person; in fact, we usually don't. I say things in email that I can't seem to bring myself to say out loud. But, that doesn't mean it's forgotten or glossed over.

I would encourage you to bring up how you interpreted her change in response. It sounds like it would be a really productive topic of conversation.