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Originally Posted by ChickenNoodleSoup
However, I feel that you might get more out of this asking a different question. It doesn't really matter too much how this influences your T. Since it's her job, if it bothers her she has to change something about it, not you. However, it might influence you a whole lot?
I remember about a year ago I had the possibility to write to one of my friends as much as I wanted to, whenever I wanted to. He'd rarely respond, but that was fine. However, I actually found that over time, the relieve I got from messaging was less and less, while I was more and more preoccupied with the things I wrote. All my thoughts would only be focused on what I wrote and what I could write and how it made me feel. But it didn't provide actual relieve and didn't help me either.
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plenty of very valid insight. thanks! i do ask myslef what do those emails do for me and there are several reasons why i continue this way:
1. for once the point of them is for things to be discussed in therapy without the lengthy explanation of details and without being caught up in emotions. one of the big issues for me is that the therapy sessions are set for a particular time of the week /day and often the distractions of the day get in the way and prevent me from staying focused and discussing what i wanted in the first place. so in theory the email is there to set the ground for what I want to talk about. my T hardly ever mentions those topics and lately the two (sessions and emails) seem to go seperate ways. i do often stress in the emails that this or that is something i would like to discuss but for some reason a few days later it doesn't seem as relevant.
2. unlike you friend who rarely responded this is someone i have a conversation with each week so its my not an endless stream of thoughts without any reaction.
3. i used do journal but without the external reader i got myself to caught up at illogical whereas if there is someone who reads it i try to stay more focused.
4.it has become a relief mechanism which is why i am here asking what other people's thoughts are.
5. itt never bothered me that i may appear needy or clingy so that's not an issue. i think i would like more to be actually discussed and for her to have a bit more insight into what i write instead of me repeating the same thing if we do talk about it.
Thanks