A good enough parent works themselves out of a job when their child finishes puberty and grows into an adult at 18 (legally) and becomes capable of taking care of themselves. A parent is to be supportive of their adult child's methods of finding usefulness in this world.

Those of us with disorders might want to live like children, but the truth is we are adults acting like children. Journey work, as I learned through compassioncourse.org, is feeling your feelings, finding your unmet need, speaking your unmet need into existence and then embracing your own action plan and doing so respectfully to yourself (self-empathy) and others (giving this same process to others, which is shared empathy).

Mental disorders do not disqualify any of us from this process. We adults are to organize our own chaos. We learn as we go. Look to your programs, rather than your mother, to complete this process, which will mature you in facing the consequences of your choices. That is the ONLY way you will be able to find your own dignity. The benefit is maturity, which has benefits that pass to our own children who pass it on to their children...because it is a timeless truth threading through all generations and is the same in every nation of the world.