Wow. I think that I understand a little of what you're saying, herm but, the way you're going about it sounds pretty cold. Not everyone can just decide to pull themselves up by their own boot straps and go from zero to hero over night. Some people get damaged by the bad parts of life. Sometimes the damage is extensive. So much so that the person is in dire need of repair from the outside. We are not a race of androids with self repairing systems
that can handle anything. Organics (flesh creatures, humans etc.) don't function that way.
Humans have a natural need for love and support and without it they crumble and on top of mental problems you also have to take trauma into account. Trauma doesn't just create mental problems but, makes already existing mental problems much, much worse. Shall I copy and paste the definition of "compassion" here?