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Originally Posted by SarahSweden
Thanks. Yes, I agree therapists aren´t there to fix things in the client´s life but there´s a big difference between feeling that I just report things to my therapist or if telling her things actually feels like she understands.
My current therapist wants me to tell her if something doesn´t feel right and that´s a good thing. She also asks me how I want to be met and that´s not a good thing as this means she doesn´t know how to respond in a proper way nor that she knows different ways of responding to me.
I can´t both be the one with issues to talk about and also give her guidance in how to answer to what I tell her. She should have so much experience that she can try different approaches, some clients want advice, some just want to be listened to and so forth.
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I understand what you’re saying. I wonder why your T would like to also give her “guidance”. My T wanted me to tell her the issue but she also expected me to come up with the solution in a way. She said otherwise she’s doing all of the work. She wanted me to I guess “find” the answer. I could never figure that out. That’s why I was going to get. I’m wondering if your T really needs the guidance or is she trying to get you to do “the work”.
I told her that if I’m hoing there and I’m figuring things out on my own the. What’s the point of going there and paying her. That’s my reasoning.