I am trying, everything I want to do he wants to do with me. I started walking about a year ago just to get out of the house and have some time alone. He this year said he wanted to start walking too. So we did.....it was ok for awhile until I told him I was missing my alone time because when we walk together he wants to talk constantly. Nothing changed, I had no other options unless I walked twice a day once for myself and then still at night. It was hard on me to do both so I gave up morning walks.
I went to visit a few friends that I hadn't seen in about 10 years for something to do (mind you he has never liked or wanted anything to do with my friends) and I had a great time but I came back to hearing him complain about how he would have liked to go and how he wished he could make me laugh and talk to me like they do. That is when all of a sudden the things I watch on tv I can no longer watch alone because he says....oh I thought I hated this show now I like it. If I watch anything alone I get the third degree about how he would like to watch that too.
I joined an online chat group in Feb. and he was fine with it because he had no interest, now he tells me just 3 weeks ago that he wants to join too because he feels these friends see a side of me he doesn't know.
Everytime I find something I can do by myself, he finds a reason to do it with me and I get it, he is trying to bring us closer together by attaching himself to everything I do but seriously I am feeling very claustrophobic. When I tell him this he says I am trying to push him away and that I don't want to fix us and bring us closer together.