What I hear you saying is that when you tell the therapist things you want to be able to feel like she understands you and your situation. You would like more feedback and more support (advice?) about what is going on for you and ways to move forward.
But what I hear you planning is to tell your therapist something that you don't really feel, or are not really at peace with. I use the phrase "it is what it is" quite a lot in my therapy because there are things that I am truly accepting of. I may not like them, or I may want something different that what actually is, but I understand that for whatever reason it really is just how it is for that moment and nothing can be done to change it right there and then. For me it truly is a statement of acceptance. that is how I say it and that is how my therapist understands it (as far as I can tell).
So I am struggling to understand how planning to say those specific words in a very specific tone to convey a very specific message (which will be open to gross misinterpretation) will help you. You have very clearly articulated what you don't want and what you do want in this thread. What would happen if you were able to tell her what you have said here?
The thing is you want to feel understood and you want her to offer more support and advice, and the fastest most sure way of helping her to understand you is by telling her directly. Planning to say a specific phase in a despondent manner in the hope that she will be able to figure out what you want is a crapshoot.