I would say that easily sums it up yes.......I wish I could say it without those words because I cannot truly know what is going through his head when he says these things but he makes me feel like I am the one who is doing something wrong and bad for us if I want to do something by myself. I may be at fault because for many years I have been mom and dutiful wife, sacrificing all other aspects of my life for those things and now that I no longer have those duties I am having to find other things to fill those open spots.