If I walk without him he will say I don't want to spend time with him, which I cannot argue because its true but not in the way he takes it. If I just keep saying its for me, some time alone to clear my head he will say " well I don't get any time alone" and then when I tell him to go ahead and do something for himself alone he says " There is nothing I want to do without you." This is a never ending circle. What I think it comes down to is he cannot see why I need my time because he feels he doesn't need any.
As for the chat rooms when I go....he spies on me and then brings up things I said like he thinks I can't put two and two together. I have confronted him of spying on me and he swears he is not that he was just interested and happened to see a conversation that I had ( I do not hide anything I do, I have no reason to) but when I talk to friends online he will ask me who I was chatting with and what about. When I ask him why he needs to know he says because he is just trying to be a part of my life.