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Originally Posted by Amyjay
That is a lot, trailrunner. I am sorry things are so hard and overwhelming for you right now!
I hear that you can't take a "big" time out. Is it possible to take "micro" time? Deep breathing while pouring a cup of tea, mindfully counting steps while walking across the room, deep inhalations of baby(?) smell while you snuggle with the little one. Things like taking a moment to feel the chair beneath your body and the floor beneath your feet, maybe momentary sensory grounding experiences might anchor you in the here and now for a little moment or two and help to calm your hyperarousal of your nervous system?
I have had times like that and they are very hard. You have probably had many times like this before too and coped with them as you are now, just struggling to hold on moment to moment without a breath. Maybe just taking a few mindful moments to take those breaths and connect with your body might help to do it differently, to support yourself a little bit more even though you can't take "big" care of yourself right now?
Sorry if this isn't helpful.
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Thank you Amyjay!!
You are reminding me to take care of myself.
It just feels like I'm in a place that I forget that. I have to be what I need to be for everybody else.
My counselor and I talked tonight about being angry and how it's ok.
I'm thinking that it's time to have a productive talk with the "kids" about their responsibility and me not being a doormat.
Entitlement is a vicious thing.
They are young and we have helped them a whole lot.
It may be that we have helped them too much and they have not had to step up to the plate. As a result we have taken the stress of "our " decision.
Truth.
I am going to take your suggestions and try them.
Thank you so much for replying.
It was a random, not me, thing when I posted this. That calls my attention to my level of "not me".