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Old Dec 20, 2017, 06:39 AM
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Originally Posted by DP_2017 View Post
nope i didn't mean it that way but i was told early on that i can't email excessively, i need to not be too dependent which i thought of as needy. i would email 2x a week at first and beat myself up about that being too much... and it was not but i am just personally saying, for me it would be exhausting, i don't think needy or clingy is bad all the time, its just not something i like or want to come off as so i try not to. if someone emailed me daily, i would be very annoyed but then again some therapists are probably better able to handle it. however i know mine would not, he told me straight up we would discuss it if it was too much and that would be if it was more than 3x a week.... so i never went that far. if you are fine with it and they are thats ok

all i am saying is its possible its being seen as needy or clingy now and they are just unsure of how to tell you kindly. idk. I'm not a therapist... and again its not always bad, we are supposed to need our therapists to a degree... i just was saying, to try to cut back and make yourself a personal goal for it.

Also another suggestion, if you want to try and cut back on emails, write things down. i have done it and its a great help, either in note form or just in a journal and when you go in, you can read it there. i highly recommend trying this
I agree. Don't understand why your posts are being criticized here. Emailing daily IS needy. That's simply a description of a behaviour. Personally I think for some people having outside contact is a bad idea. I know it works for some and that's great. But some clients (and I include myself: I was like that at some point) tend to rely too heavily on emails/texts/phone calls from their therapist and instead of it being helpful the client becomes dependent and emailing/texting becomes an addiction (it was certainly like that for me). And then the therapist becomes overwhelmed and decides that outside contact is too much and boom! the client gets hurt. I do agree that setting up some goals not to email every day is a good idea.
Thanks for this!
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