More of what I’m speaking of is persons with a steady, non changing pattern of discord and broken relationships. Toxic interactions, and disrespectful treatment of others. This is not a “first impression” type of situation. This can take a long time of watching people in their interactions before you’re able to truly decipher if they have the traits you find desirable as a friend.

Narcissists for example can come across as extremely likeable and charming. But they can be really manipulative, abusive, and toxic.

I never judge a book by its cover. Some of my best friends are people who I didn’t “hit it off with” right away. But time really fettered out their true colours and they proved to be good people who I wanted in my life.

What I’m saying is that you could try using your inner intuition, and let time pass while you watch how people are. Their true nature will eventually show itself.