Hmmmm, you think you can only get better (stop feeling the revenge) if you have someone to fill the place in your life he had.

Interesting because when I left my H, my anger was so intense I was literally seeing red. Ehat I found personally is that I needed to heal first before it would ever be safe to alliw anyone back into my life. We need to resolve our own issues by our selves. We need to know who we are not in relation to someone else but in relation to ourselves. It is the only way to truly resolve those internal issues we battle with.

Is this how you feel after every break-up that has hurt you? This might be a valuable issue to work with your T on because it is a personal issue that you need to learn appropriate skills to handle.

There will people throughout your life who will hurt you, not just BF'S. I have been hurt & cheated by many just in dealing with life.....the home care person I caught financially abusing my mom when she was dying of cancer. The guy hired to install my new heat pump system in my farm house who installed a mismatched & broken system & left me with a $1600 electric bill that winter & he was jydgment proof so taking him to court was useless, then thefirst guy I hired to do fencing of my field. Gor nothing for the check Iwrote. Years of court time & just barely got my money back with jail time stearing at him....& the first painter I hired to paint the house. Learned do it yourself. List $1000's on that jerk. Learnibg to let go or it will eat you up. I am still dealing with the divorce finally & it will be a battle to get what is mine so I have to weigh the cost $ & emotional....but these are all internal issues that ONLY I can resolve & someone else in my life would only cover up or mask the issue until the next time it happens & you havent learned the skilks needed to handle it yourself. Life isn't easy but it is personal & it is something only we, ourselves can kearn to deal with. Revenge isnt the answer (you already know that) therapy helped me a lot but so did God through years of Bible study. Learnibg to forgive. I am assertive & I do look out for myself but when things happen out of my control I had to learn the abiluty to let go of the things I couldnt change while learnibg my lesson from the experience never to let it happen again. No one else can do that for you & just hoping it won't happen again is not learning anything from the experience.

Takes time & maturity.