My therapist says it's the crushing of my fantasy that I am holding onto. That I fell in love with a fantasy, and then had a hard crash. No, it's not like this every time I get hurt, but I do hold on a lot longer than I should emotionally. Ideally, I would heal first, but I did find someone I really like without exactly expecting it. I think in time I can let go. Thank you for your thoughts! ((Hugs))