I know my family's not perfect, never expected that. and I'm sure most if not all families have some level of dysfunction, so whatever. I just figured no matter what, a big event like this, something a person is happy & excited about, they'd want to share it. maybe I'm wrong, who knows...

as it turns out, based on the 'times' of things, I was called 3 hours after the birth and less then 3 hours later, it was on social media!!! if it hadn't been for my younger sister being there in the afternoon and snapping a 'new family' photo and texting it to me, I wouldn't have even seen any pics. UNLESS I go looking for them -> and my sister and my parents know I don't go on facebook (so how would I know there are photos there, is my point).
in fact just now, I haven't been sent any photos of the new baby since those first two in that text, and he's like 16 days old now. (probably are on social media though)

did I make her nervous? no clue. I doubt it since we rarely talk. my family's weird like that. I just figured I was the black sheep in the family cuz of my MIs.

and yes, I'm pissed! I mean, come on - for crying out loud. I just wanted to get reactions from others cuz I wasn't sure how pissed I should actually be.

and maybe part of that is this: I think it would've been cool (neat opportunity) to be there for the birth. I understand with natural births that you really can't make plans cuz it comes when it wants to! and when my two nephews were born, I was seven hours away - living in another state. so I wasn't there until way later. and with my niece, outside circumstances prevented me from going down 'right afterwards'. but this time, knowing you're having a C-section on a planned date ahead of time, you could literally invite anyone you wanted to - to be there and share in the moment with you!
and I'm not the type to 'invite myself'. if I'm not told by that person, then I don't go cuz I wasn't invited. and to me, usually a person doesn't tell you about something (like being somewhere for the weekend or a outing or ballgame) cuz they don't want you to, whatever their reasons may be! and the odds are I will never have kids of my own, so something like this would be my only way to have or share in that type of experience.

but whatever... thanks to everyone for your comments. if you want, keep 'em comin'