This is separate from the money issue so I wanted a separate thread.

I know I differ from many of you who don't tell your T that you Google or look them up on FB, but I have always been totally honest about it with my T. I can't do it any other way. I think it's 2 years since I googled her name.

I wrote her that I didn't find out what's wrong in her family, and that I know it's none of my business. I said I felt shut out again in the session when she said "I'm not going to tell you." This was in the context of telling me she was not going on her 2 week trip.

I said I was NOT looking for her bf/ partner's name; it just appeared next to hers on a donation list that showed up under her name. I wrote that it helps me to know he lives in another nearby state ( that explains their not living together!) because I won't be surprised if she retires and moves there. It's only a couple of hours away. I actually feel more settled knowing who he is but I know T didn't want to tell me. If she can't handle that I know, and wants to terminate me, so be it. I doubt that will happen.