I am so sorry Fuzzybear and the rest of us who have been hurt by a parent, and equally sorry for my kids, now grown, who have been hurt by me as I acted out my unresolved pain with my parents ...as my four children were watching and feeling my distress when they were too little to understand. We've since talked it out, gone through therapy, done the journey work, but gads, it has been harder than hard.

This is the first year in 70 that I haven't felt sadness with the holidays. Yea for progress, but boo for the first 69 years--it's all about perspective. Good to me for this year being better. My hope is good to you, too, in finding happiness in the making of new memories this year and from now on. (That seems to be the best gift I can give to my grown children as they 'watch' this play out. I like the feeling too.)