How did your parents feel about your "disobeying" them? This incident feels more symbolic to me than like potentially dangerous. Like you are acting out your anger.

There was NO disobeying my parents. We twisted the truth to make things fit. It was like no way out. But in t, you kind of sit together, hold hands, and face uncomfortable feelings and differences of opinion together, and stay together, and its okay. Nobody gets to threaten to kill or cut off the other person - thats not playing fair.