On another thread someone mentioned that they did not think that rape was always a control issue. I thought that I agreed with that. I was raped when I was 16 by a boy that thought that no meant try harder. I never blamed him, I was just frustrated with a society that does not make boundaries clear.

Then I was reading that thread I realized that it's just a rationalization. I have three sons and a daughter, and I've made the rules VERY clear for them.

When my husband and I were dating I realized that I was starting my period and I said no. He stopped. He did not act upset he did not even request an explanation, when I started to give one he just said it's ok, when you're ready I'm ready.

Now his parents gave them very little guidance, but he knew enough that no means no.

So, what do you think is it always a control issue?