That is the challenge for me. Sometimes I wonder if parenting is a giant hoax foisted upon us; it's reduces your wealth and freedom significantly. My single friends are out gallivanting and having a jolly old time all over the world, and have the freedom to relocate to wherever they choose at the drop of a hat. Meanwhile, me and my married friends post photo after photo of our children and families; I don’t know about the others, but my postings always seem to be a giant charade.

Perhaps it's because I grew up in a very dysfunctional family. My parents were more invested in socializing and advancing their careers than spending time with me or my brother. My wife is much more committed to a strong relationship with our children.

Regarding discipline, I feel that I have the exact opposite problem that you mentioned: rather than being scared of me, I feel that my children don’t take me seriously. It’s hard to “crack the whip,” when you’re not allowed to even hold the whip these days.

Don’t get me wrong: I think discipline should be used judiciously. However, I really scratch my head when I see the results from most parents in their kids. It’s Christmas break now, and the kids are home. I’m currently not working, so I have to find ways to occupy them. It’s going to be a long couple of weeks.