I think for me in the earliest years that was true for me.
But before therapy, my problems were driving my life. All I could see in people was what they could do for me to fill the hole that was me. None of my relating to people was emotional honesty. I just took people hostage.
Than along come this T. She was all I could think about.
But for me, that's what needed to Happen because all my early life there had been no one that had cared enough about me. I was so emotionally thirsty that I got drunk on T.
As the work/years progressed, the thirst lessened. I didn't have to use others to get emotionally drunk on.
I begun to have room inside of me to treat people as people. Some I can take or leave. Others I feel closer to in a new way.
But I also enjoy me now. Thsts the relationship that needed the most work on. Other people have their own (often untreated issues) and I'm able to recognise that now too so can choose what I want to do about them.
It's surprising after a few years of Theale how my view of life has changed. I thought everyone else use to be the grown ups and I was childish. Wow has that changed.
So all in all. Take where you are right now and accept its where you need to be right now.