When I was working with an attachment therapist I was conflicted about emails. In my whole life I had only sent a handful of emails. She got over 1600 in 18 months. From the first time I emailed her and apologized (I was just wanting to get things away from me). She said, "I do not mind emails, send away. I cannot promise to read and/or respond to all of them. If you need a response you have to let me know some how." I never did request responses, but she responded to 2/3 of them.

My ex therapist welcomed the flood of emails, even if they were about wanting to be dead. Every email she got after the death wish ones let her know I was still fighting to hang onto life. Emails were an important part of our work together.

My therapist now likes me to keep her posted on how I'm navigating certain challenges in my work and personal life. Her responses are much shorter and always contain words of encouragement. Sometimes I'll send 4 or 5 a day, other days and weeks she gets nothing.

They were both okay with it. Never, did I get a sense that emails were too much for them.