Hello bonita: This appears to be your first posted thread here on PC. So... welcome to PsychCentral!
I hope you find the time you spend here to be of benefit.
You said, in your post, that your family & friends are telling your bf's not going to change & he's playing you. But you know he loves you & cares about you & you're good for him.
The thing is... all of these things may well be true. Romantic relationships are complicated. It would be nice if it could be all one way or another. But it seldom, if ever, is. So what you're going to have to figure out here is whether there is enough love there (both yours & his) to insolate the two of you from the tumult that is pretty certain to follow you both as a couple, if in fact the two of you are able to get back together.
It is possible that your boyfriend will change over time. But change of this magnitude takes time. It's not something I think you can expect to see happen any time soon. And, as far as improving your understanding goes, perhaps one good way of accomplishing that would be to read a lot of posts here on PC. Over time, they will help you to develop an understanding of what people with depression experience & how to help. Oh... & speaking of how to help, here are links to 4 articles from the PsychCentral archives on how to help someone who struggles with depression:
https://psychcentral.com/blog/archiv...th-depression/
https://psychcentral.com/lib/10-ways...hos-depressed/
https://psychcentral.com/blog/archiv...th-depression/
https://blogs.psychcentral.com/bondi...sed-loved-one/
Also... here is a link to a YouTube video by family therapist, Kati Morton, on the subject of how to help someone who is struggling with depression:
May I suggest you introduce yourself over on PC's New Member Introductions forum? Here's a link:
https://forums.psychcentral.com/new-...introductions/
There's a lot of support that can be available here on PC. The more you post, & reply to other members' posts, the more a part of the community you will become.
Plus there are the chat rooms where you'll be able to interact with other PC members in real time (once your first 5 posts have been reviewed & approved.) So please keep posting!
