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Is your husband able to assist you in this matter? I understand there are cultural differences throughout the world. I was wondering if you could speak privately with your husband at a calm time in the home...and perhaps he can support you by speaking with his mother.

Generally, sometimes it is easier to not engage in conflict and retorts...not saying you are but wanted to emphasize the boundaries links from Skeezyks’ posts are wonderful. I didn’t understand about boundaries when I was in an unhealthy relationship and my therapist opened my eyes!

If at the end of the day, you are still going to have to deal with her behavior—is there at least some time for YOU without her around? Having tea at a girlfriend or sister’s home, visiting your house of prayer, a hobby such as reading (alone!) ... time alone with your husband, perhaps?

This may sound counterintuitive—but showing some appropriate affection or care to your mother-in-law may help? A small gift of her favorite tea or brushing her hair or a pretty, yet modest gift like a scarf or small purse?