Yes, we have another long break. Today is day 3 of the 17 day break, but I guess it was cheating a little, since I at least got to see him at the meeting. I am having surgery next week and so will be recuperating for a while. I'm not sure how long before I'll feel well enough for driving, work, errands, therapy, etc., but I made my next therapy appointment for what will be 10 days after my surgery. I hope I will be ready!

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Did you talk to him about how he felt more like a divorce coach than a therapist?

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">Yes, we did talk about that, and I'd like to say more on that at our next session. I asked him if he would be my coach again if he had it to do it over, and he said no. I said I too that I would not make that choice again. He said he looks forward to the day when the divorce is all over, and he can go back to being just my therapist. He said we will write it into the legal contract that he is not allowed to be my coach after the divorce. That made me feel very happy and really secure. He said that being my therapist was all he wanted to be to me, and he looked forward to always having that role in my life. And he talked about clients who saw him off and on for years with long breaks in between, coming back when they needed to. It made eventual termination not seem so scary to me, because his door would always be open.

This is a rich topic for us. I have had some insights on the coach/therapist thing since our session, and made a link to a puzzling dream I had quite a while back. I love when the dreams fall into place and become more comprehensible. Sometimes the unconscious amazes me. It just knows all this stuff that I don't!