Hugs, Healed. It sounds like you know what you have to do. It sounded like things have been going poorly with your T for some time now (and even he admitted it, right?) Like maybe it's causing you more distress than helping at this point. Maybe you've just come to the end of your T's usefulness to you--you can't go any further with him. I assume he's the sort who would leave the door open if you change your mind, right? So there's no risk in trying it out, seeing how it feels.

I ended things pretty abruptly with my T of 6 years as well (is there something about the 6 year mark, I wonder? The 6-year itch?), just telling her in session that I'd made an appointment with another T and that I'd at least come back for a termination session. Well, it's now been over 3 months, and I did send her an e-mail update and said I might come in for termination session in February (she's traveling most of January). But I don't know that I'll actually do that--not sure I feel the need, but will see how things are going then. (Still debating what to do about MC at this point, but that's a much more complicated story.)

My point is that I don't think there necessarily needs to be some long termination process, even though T's often seem to think that... Do what you think is right for you, not what your T thinks...