Hi,
I wanted to share with you what my T said when I confessed to combing the web for her and finding something a local organization posted about her and her family, and finding where she lives (and what she paid for the house) on a real estate site (home and family and money--I felt I was really stomping on some sacred ground). I felt ashamed, stalker-ish... I don't remember clearly how I got up the nerve to tell her because I remember being ashamed and feeling like a mega-creep. Anyway, and I was so pleasantly surprised. She said that it made complete sense that I would have looked for her online and that I'd be curious about those details. She said that I know only the tiniest bit about me and what we're doing is so important--why wouldn't I try to find out all I can, and just generally be curious. Anyway, she was just really sweet and comforting to me about this and made me feel like I did something any thinking, feeling person would do--like it actually spoke well for me to have done that. I feel like such a toxic prick so much of the time that this meant everything to me. I can't say that I don't feel uneasy about having done that, as I feel uneasy about everything I do and have ever done (long story). But.. well... if what she said applies to me, then it applies to you too.