Hello Goldenhand: I don't know as I have any particularly good suggestions for you myself. However here's a link to an article from PsychCentral's archives on "anxious attachment". This may not be especially relevant to what you are experiencing; but perhaps something in the article will be of some help:

https://psychcentral.com/blog/archiv...-relationship/

I see this is your first post here on PC. So... welcome to PsychCentral! I hope you find the time you spend here to be of benefit. May I suggest you introduce yourself over on PC's New Member Introductions forum? Here's a link:

https://forums.psychcentral.com/new-...introductions/

There's a lot of support that can be available here on PC. The more you post, & reply to other members' posts, the more a part of the community you will become. Plus there are the chat rooms where you'll be able to interact with other PC members in real time (once your first 5 posts have been reviewed & approved.) So please keep posting!