[QUOTE=~Christina;5952762]Maybe you need to just pause and think before you speak???

5-10 seconds thought before you speak could make a huge difference... sounds simple but maybe it will help..

Yes, the Buddhist nun, Pema Chödrön, talks about this in her writings. She's coming to it from the perspective of learning how to avoid, or at least lessen, the tendency to get into arguments. But what she says is to practice waiting a few seconds before replying. That momentary gap can create enough space to allow one to think about what one might be about to say rather than just "shooting from the hip", so to speak. Good advice!