Ups:
Having him be a witness and having his support while my life slowly imploded.
Various times he offered phone check-ins while he was out of town.
More than once, being told that he cares for me.
The letter he wrote to me to be opened when I'm having a dark day while he's on a 2-week vacation.

Downs:
The day I had to tell him that my husband threatened him.
Him telling me he couldn't go to court with me. That one stung a bit.

Wow. Did all this stuff really happen this year? It's been a long, terrible year.