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Originally Posted by Artchic528
well, he has a hole in his septum, and an aneurysm on his aortic arch, and his stamina is very poor as a result. He's had surgery before (he's got scars on his chest), but needs more in the near future.
He's had a job before, but they let him go for one reason or another. I think that they wanted to hire what he does offsite or something. I'm not too clear on that.
He's been applying for any and every job he can right now, and is very discouraged at the refusal to hire based off of his stamina. He's understandably discouraged.
He's doing everything he can to get a job so he can buy the ticket to come and see me. I'm thinking about applying for a second job so I can get more income and maybe find a way to buy a ticket to go see him.
Yes, we've discussed getting married before, but want to wait until we meet first because then we can know for sure.
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My sister’s fiancé has the exact same health condition (small world!) I understand the severity of the condition, but I don’t see why it would impact employment if he is in IT. My sister’s fiancé is an accountant and works full time (sitting at his desk) and has never had any problem keeping a job. Of course, he can’t run (at all) and has to be careful with any kind of lifting/physical activity. Since it’s illegal to ask a prospective employee about their health conditions, he has never disclosed his condition to his employer. When he’s had to have surgery, he simply tells his employer he will be out X number of days for surgery— just like anyone could need surgery once in a while. I only bring this up because it could be a potential red flag that he has been let go by employers. Are you ok if he never works? How will you support yourselves? A lot of people have health conditions (I have chronic pain and surgery about once a year for a different condition)— but most still find a job they can do with their limitations. I’m not really sure how stamina is a factor in an IT job, since he is still able to spend a lot of time on the computer with you. What about an IT job is the issue with his health?