but it obviously doesn't model real life. nobody will give you their undivided, unconditional attention so regularly for years. its a contract. some pay to actually resolve issues, i seem to be paying for a 'fake' friend. this is where the transference happens. its all so natural to fell attracked and attached to someone who listens and doesn't judge. but that has nothing to do with what's happening in real life. People judge, dislike, get frustrated. it's a role a therapist plays, even if genuine, its a. pre-set arrangement. it's not real. Yes, they do care and genuinely want to help but it has nothing to do with the connection most of us long for. and it feels deseptive and fake and wrong and gives me a false sense of comfort.