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Old Dec 25, 2017, 02:46 AM
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Originally Posted by daisydid View Post
I'm leaning toward trying to find someone new in 2018, but I'm generally discouraged. With RoboT it was so easy; we clicked instantly and I feel like I was simultaneously challenged and supported by him. For those of you who have a good working relationship with your therapist, how many crap ones did you work with before you found yours? How long did the process take? There is hope, right?
I'm sorry that you're having trouble finding a new T! It's a frustrating process and can take a lot of time. Don't give up!

I had a similar situation. I found my first T almost immediately and it was a connection right off the bat. When we terminated, I saw six other therapists (over the course of three years) before I found the one I have now. There were some periods between that I would go months without even interviewing a person, because it was so hard for me to open myself up again to someone new, knowing that I would most likely be disappointed again.

However, the guy that I found now is amazing. I'm so glad that I kept persisting and he is definitely worth the wait. My suggestion is to hold out until you find the right person. I know it can seem like that person just doesn't exist, but there is going to be someone out there with whom you connect. You just haven't found them yet. In the meantime, try to surround yourself with other types of support systems - friends, family, etc. And of course, all of us at PC are here too!
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