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Old Dec 25, 2017, 07:18 AM
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I don't know if mine does or not. He says our relationship will be corrective over time and teach me more trust. He also says our relationship is completely artificial, and all the things it is not: spouse, friend , lover, teacher, coach... He doesnt really explain what it IS. He has excellent boundaries, and for my part I feel no wish to invade his personal life- pretty much the opposite in which it is painful to think he is an adoring husband in a cozy family so I dont think about that. He is a very professional and insightful person- he is always on time, never misses, I have never called him on the phone or seriously considered it for emotional support; he has a good memory for details, and spellbinding insight that really helps me think differently. My boyfriend lol absolutely hates his existence in a humorous way that has a grain of truth. I AM overly attached to my T I think, because I have told him harrowing secrets that no one else knows, and that create anguish in my hours between sessions. I think of him as like the guide to the underworld. On the flip side I have no illusions it will be a relationship outside of therapy ever, and dont even know if we would mesh the way it feels we would from inside the protected space. I am super attached to my T- does he want me to be and foster that? I don't know. I have "fearful attachment" that is hidden decently under a social gloss of good manners and overall social skills, so this is important work for me to resolve how not to be terrified of the male people I should trust. I am pretty sure my T thinks that, but he doesnt telll me things like that- his private thoughts.
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