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Originally Posted by Delvere
Yes, my husband is indeed loyal and good hearted person, which I am thankful about...But! He isn't that loyal to me after all. If he was, he would have finished already university and got a decent job, which he didn't. I feel like it's stabbing to my back. I already have so low requirements on him, just these two accomplishments, I don't ask from him to get filthy rich or make big career or
something like that. Just to make our life enough stable and predictable.And he has failed in this front. I feel like our life is on my shoulders and I have to drag him along.
I am actually considering of introducing him to new women, arranging dates etc., in case of our divorce. Of course, it's not that simple, he loves me and it would hurt him anyway. But I do wish to help him.
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You actually make a lot of good points. You do have the right to expect your husband to do a little bit more for the family. However your approach sound cold and it is probably mostly because you seem to have exhausted your emotions and the concept of marriage seems different to you. No judgement yet an observation.
I admire your strength. I really do. I am also a war survivor myself and i was legally a refugee for almost all my life; so I understand mostly where you are coming from.
Although unlike you, i developed depression and severe anxiety and I know how tough it is to navigate life with this foggy and sad brain.