I agree, Amyjay that this secretive stuff may be related to abuse but, what I'm dreading and getting a gut feeling about is that it (with me anyway) is a repulsive fear of being touched.
Scariest of all is that when I get these intense gut feelings I'm usually right and on top of that I have a family member that I feel sexually uncomfortable around and I don't like that person to say words that I like or that are special to me.

Also what cavaliers said about names being for summoning. I can summon different personalities to take over for me when I'm stressed or afraid.