That interpretation doesn’t really seem to fit. First, sexual orientation is not a “choice.” I also don’t feel as though my father treats me as a son. Between my sister and I, I’m definitely the “girlier” one. In our family, (siblings and cousins) we have 4 girls and no boys so everything is “the girls.” I’m the oldest so I’ve always been the leader and role model. I also don’t really understand how my dad is making use of my availability. He was in the hospital unconscious so I left my house and my job and went to be with him. I don’t think he is “honoring” my sexuality in any way. Since I’m currently single, we don’t really talk about it. But I know if I got married, my family would treat it as “less than” my sister’s heterosexual marriage. They aren’t as homophobic as they used to be, but they aren’t exactly ready to join PFLAG either. My sexuality isn’t usually a big topic of conversation.

Edit to add: As for my mom, she has dementia in addition to MS so she doesn’t know I’m gay but she’s homophobic. She’s not mentally “there” so she’s really not a player in the situation. Just someone I’m responsible for (we have a part-time caretaker to help).