Thank you, everyone who understands that victim blaming isn't the same as lying or crying wolf.
I'm staggered at some of the responses though - about how to treat 'fake' victims, as if we are judge, jury & executioner in these matters.
This sub-forum has not felt like a safe space for survivors of abuse for a while now, so I'll just stick with the other places and give myself some peace.
Bye for now.