Very, long story short; I have an ex who made contact with me again after a brief LD, emotional affair, during my marriage separation. It ended with a call to the police because he wouldn’t let go and was harassing me by text. Plus, it was the second time police were called in for the same thing, a brief engagement I broke off, 25 years prior. No contact in between then and now.

The saga is even worse if I went on.

These few dysfunctional relationships I have are the reason for suspicion of my diagnoses.

Anyway- I don’t want to respond to his text. I was nice, by texting back a Happy Holidays to him in response to his to me. Now he asks if I am alright. I don’t want to open that door.

I am worried about him, his mental state of mind. He has reason to hate me. I broke up with him and ‘ruined his life’.

My h knows all about everything up until he just now texted and I responded one year later after police were called to stop him from stalking.

My bff says, “Stalking is a young man’s game”. . So, I do not think he will come to my house and kill me because he lives in another state, I think.

If I don’t respond to his text, which is what I want to do, should I worry that he will become irate?

Not sure what to do here.