I think my T has a lot of compassion for people (her clients in particular), so I think that if she didn't understand why somebody was so upset about something, she would want to dig deeper to understand what's at the root of the feeling. Sometimes there is a deep well of pain that manifests in unexpected ways, and thinking "Just get over yourself" doesn't really help you find it.

My T's therapeutic perspective focuses on people and their relationships. So if she feels like somebody has particular ways of relating that are not helpful, those patterns are likely to show up in the therapeutic relationship where she can gently point them out. She doesn't just agree with everything the client does, even though she remains firmly on their side. So therapy can be about reworking old habits, but within a caring, supportive relationship. This gentle approach might feel very different and much better than how the client's parents approached dealing with unwanted behaviors (speaking from personal experience).

And honestly maybe she does think mean thoughts sometimes, but I appreciate that she cares enough about me to not vent them at me. Thoughts are just thoughts unless you do something about them.