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Originally Posted by scorpiosis37
Thank-you. What you wrote resonates with me. I do think, at times, my dad has given her more attention because she had had a harder time with things like school and career. It’s not the reason for all of the unequal treatment, but some of it. She has gotten in trouble with the law in the past, and definitely required more attention in that respect.
When I lived on the other side of the country, it was very easy to just live my own life and not be bothered by this kind of stuff. This is the first time I’ve lived in the same state as my parents since I was 18– and now I’ve been in my childhood bedroom for 6 months— and some of that old stuff that I thought I’d forgotten has resurfaced. I’ll move through it, it was just a ****** week. And I tried talking to my dad about it— but he just yelled at me and wasn’t willing to hear me out. So it’s not going to change. Today is my sister’s birthday— and I’m planning her party— so I’m going to go get that off the ground, but tomorrow I’m hoping to get some “me” time. It just sucks that my life and my support people are still on the other side of the country where I lived for the last 8 years.
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Yes, this is somewhat similar to the situation with my own sister. My parents now give her a lot more attention than me because she has a lot more problems. When you try to understand things from that perspective, it may lessen the pain of some of it at least.
It is much harder when you're brought back to the house you grew up in, when you're living away from your support system and when you're faced with the issue head on in a frequent manner.
Sorry it was such a bad week. You're a very loving sister and daughter to be doing as much as you are. Can you reach out to your friends back where you were living for additional support?
Are you able to perhaps see a therapist while you are living at home with your family?? That may help as well.