How interested are you in commitment? If you are interested, then you might want to focus on his telling you that he is afraid of commitment. How will you feel if you spend, say, two more years with him and are no closer to a committed relationship?

I don’t think that consistently staring at other women, eyeing them up and down, should be excused as a “man thing”. He chooses those actions. He chooses to do it to them, and he chooses to do it in front of you. He could choose differently. And he should.