Very well put. It is not a rule that is about you, it is a rule about being a T. A rule they are supposed to follow to protect you from the harm that changing the relationship could cause. I think that is why some T's are so strict on the rule, because they don't want to "break the frame" and cause harm.

I agree, talking about it would be a great thing, maybe not the comfortable thing, but good for therapy. That's what it's all about