Not that it matters anymore, but I guess I'm looking at this for some sort of closure.

Anyway, my ex-fiancé (female) and I'm a guy didn't like it when I cut my hair or styled it differently. She would refuse to be affectionate or intimate with me because she said I look like a 'little boy'.

Obviously this hurt me and I told her this but she never seemed to be bothered that her words upset me.

I just wanted to know if you think that this is controlling behaviour (subtle) or is it just pure Narcissistic?

Thanks for any help.