I just realized my therapist doesn't do a whole lot from the relational perspective. He is psychoanalytic, so the way he does therapy promotes transference, which intensifies attachment needs.

But I found some basic, really simple things therapists do to help forge a bond:


More on synchrony:

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/art...C4907088/#B139

Be a good parent, holding and containing, lending ego, etc.:

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3330607/

and


People who didn't have these loving things growing up seem more likely to react to these things with intensity aka become attached.