Then she probably also understands if you don't manage to avoid it that night. And whenever someone asks you not to do anything that night, and you don't feel like you can make that promise, it's ok to just tell them that you just can't promise that right now. Maybe you'll still get through the night without si, but you won't have to feel so bad about letting your friend down, just in case.

It isn't a constructive way to deal with our problems, and it would be better for us, and more comfortable for the people who care about us, if we could quit, but at the same time, it isn't the end of the world. You feel bad enough already. No need to beat yourself up more emotionally if you slip.

Take Care,
Wendy