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Old Dec 27, 2017, 04:08 PM
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It is sad that you are respinding the way you are to his immature behavior he responded to yoyr break up with instead of just leaving withoyt wanting the last say.

It kinda reminds me of gradeschool playgrounds where one kid says "I dont like the way you are acting so Im not going to play with you any more" & that kid turns around & says "good because I didnt like you anyway"

Better to be the mature one who doesnt have to have the last biting words. Why engage in immature behavior. That is what he wants because then it keeps you in contact wuth him which in reality might have been exactly what he wanted.

If I had NOT been dysfunctional in my marriage I would have walked awsy rather than engaged in the verbal battles. I learned my lesson & wont even go there any more. I choose to be the mature one NOW....& so can you.

It is interesting, a pre-med guy I went out with a few times in college (early 70's)....our values didnt match & we both decided it wasnt going to work...but in talking to him, he had an interesting philosophy in breaking up with most girls. He said when he knew it wasn't working he would do things to make her mad so she was the one who would break up with him so he didnt have to deal with an emotional female & he could just walk away. It sounds like yoyr ex REALLY wanted you to hang around & work out a way to continue supporting him & when you wouldnt, he got MAD & took it out on you by saying hurtful things because if he really felt what he said he would have just been glad to walk away without saying anything....though it REALLY points out HIS IMMATURITY.....something you REALLY knew was there if you had been honest with ykurself from the beginning about him.
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