I have no doubt that I often frustrate my therapist. I'm sure she thinks, "How can she sit here and complain when she is flat-out refusing to use the healthy coping mechanisms that she KNOWS work?"

I care about my therapist, and I do care how she perceives me, to a degree. But I try not to let what I predict her feelings are to bother me. If I am frustrating her, so be it. At least I am being honest, and not lying to her so that she will be satisfied.