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Originally Posted by Hopingtrying
 Would demanding that she stay more busy be just as bad as demanding that she stay unbusy so she can spend more time with him?
Tisha--you spend a lot of time worrying about others/pleasing others/second guessing yourself (the concern for others is good!). If you are both financially secure--just enjoy it! You DID help your H make this happen by handling many details so he was able to focus on his career.  |
Demanding something of one’s spouse is unacceptable in general. Under some circumstances it’s acceptable though. If my husband had no job I’d demand he gets one. But one doesn’t have to comply of course. My husband could never make his ex to get a job no matter how much he begged until he had enough and now he pays her hefty alimony. So people could beg or demand but it doesn’t mean one will comply.
In tishas case her husband could demand what he wants. But a job used to bring her satisfaction, not working because that’s what her husband wants doesn’t make sense to me. He can demand but she doesn’t need to comply