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Originally Posted by TishaBuv
...is a good name for this thread. 
What happened here? It’s like I’m the shoemaker who went to sleep, and the mice made the shoes!
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All my h said is he doesn’t want me to be working much because he wants me around to be with him. Yes, and to wait on him. But, if I am not going to do it, then someone must be paid to do it, because he sure won’t cook and clean.
And he earns enough, he shouldn’t have to.
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Hmm, my h is happy that I have found a job I like but definitely prefers that I work only part time and also likes that I cook and clean and doesn't do much of either! The only problem is that his career and business schemes have not worked out. We are not financially secure. I feel like I need to get my but in gear and work! I am guilty of failing in my career too! We don't regret much either--sometimes we failed because we got tired of some of the shenanigans that go on at work (quit our jobs) or were just naive/inexperienced and learned from our mistakes. My biggest mistake in life has been not standing up for myself the way I should!
I still have trouble with this. H is very protective of me sometimes because I am like this. I am to trusting.
Live and learn!
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As for the ex, he hasn’t texted again. I feel more relaxed about him not hating me and wanting to hurt me. But not totally. He’s a good man, just tragic and sick.
I’m pretty sure I fit a lot of the criteria for disorders when you look at my relationships.
Thank you for your responses, though, and pointing out what you said.
Self sabotage is a symptom. I know. I definitely have done it all my life in certain things. Yet, I don’t regret it at all.
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Good! --the part about feeling more relaxed about your ex.
At least when we are aware of our disorders, we can work to overcome and compensate to some degree.